oh that's what it was

One of the children said to the Pastor that they didn't realize when the Pastor and I were dating we were "boyfriend and girlfriend" and that grown-ups could be "boyfriend and girlfriend."

The Pastor said that's not what he called it.

Then what did you call it?

Turns out he called it "Non-Committed Romantic Encounters" - and then we got engaged.

Thanks Pastor for finally defining our relationship, four years later.